Giving Your Partner and Yourself the Gift of Communication – How To Talk About Infertility

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It’s the end of the year, and if you have been trying to conceive naturally you are likely tired of the unmet expectations, the endless tracking and peeing on a stick without getting the results you want. But you are also not alone, as 1 in 8 couples struggle to get pregnant. Experts recommend seeing an infertility specialist if you are younger than 35 and having unprotected sex for 1 year, or older than 35 and having unprotected sex for 6 months without results.

Infertility can stem from genetic factors or medical conditions — like endometriosis or polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). But if you are young, the idea that you might not be able to have a child can feel devastating, especially if you aren’t sure how to bring up your emotions with your partner. For couples, speaking openly and compassionately can help you both stay positive and grounded during the fertility process while strengthening your relationship. We have some tips to help you do just that!

Communicating Effectively With Your Partner

-Enlist professional help to foster cooperation. Over time, the enthusiasm you initially felt about communicating with each other can wear you both down. Having a professional to support your communication efforts with each other can make a huge difference in how you both end up feeling as time goes on. It’s often easy for couples to forget that infertility isn’t always something you have a lot of control over. The goal is to communicate openly without blaming each other and instead, find common ground to feel united.

-Share your frustrations honestly rather than stuffing them down. Offer your comments kindly in the spirit of coming together during your fertility process, speaking with others, and sharing your fertility journey as you find the right treatment plan for you both.

-Check-in with each other regularly. Relationships grow and often change over time, including your preferences and personalities. Don’t be afraid to express your fertility concerns with one another, whether you are in a marriage or a committed relationship. You may not always be on the same page and that’s okay as long as your thoughts and feelings are expressed respectfully.

-Stay centered on the available facts. Focusing on the facts when it comes to infertility, such as age, genetics, and preexisting conditions is productive. This includes being aware of the aspects of infertility and fertility treatments you may consider such as insemination or in-vitro fertilization (IVF) for example.

-Keep your questions open-ended and express negative emotions vulnerably. Strive for authentic conversation that begins with intentional questions when discussing family planning and treatment. It can help to jot down open-ended questions, beginning with “how,” “what” or “when” and use ‘I’ statements like “I feel X when Y happens. I need Z.” Take time to process your answers and keep your dialogue gentle and soft. Share what you need from each other for a healthier dialogue. There’s no right or wrong way to feel about what you are experiencing.

-Consider joining a support group for couples who are also going through an infertility journey. This is a great way to validate your own feelings and put things in perspective to help you deepen each other’s understanding while promoting healthy communication and feeling seen and understood.

The Gift of Communication

During any difficult journey like infertility, healing mental wounds often takes effort. But it is possible to deepen your relationship while finding your way to the solutions and expectations you both have for each other. If you are ready to enlist help on your fertility journey, please reach out to our experienced team in Idaho Falls, ID by calling 208-529-2019 today! There’s no time like the present to achieve your fertility goals and get the help you need!